You Keep Giving Everything to Others — But Who's Taking Care of You?
At EMPWR, we specialize in online therapy for women in Michigan who struggle with people-pleasing, codependency, and burnout. Get support from those who have walked this path personally and professionally.
You Know Something Needs to Change
You say yes when you want to say no. You stay quiet to avoid conflict. You take care of everyone else’s needs but barely have time to breathe.
It’s not because you're weak. It’s because somewhere along the way, you learned that your worth was tied to your ability to care for others. I know what it's like to feel invisible even when you're doing everything "right."
And when you've tried to set boundaries? You felt guilt. Anxiety. Like you're the problem.
But you're not the problem. The cycle is. And every day it continues, it chips away at your sense of self.
You’re Not Broken—The Cycle Is
Saying no feels like betrayal.
You carry everyone’s emotions like they’re your own.
Exhaustion doesn’t stop you from giving more.
You live in fear of upsetting someone.
Sound familiar?
These are not your flaws. These are survival strategies you no longer need.
Recognizing them is the first step. Choosing to break them is the next.
Why Help That Didn’t Work Left You Disappointed
You’ve tried to change. Maybe you:
Went to therapy but felt like “just another appointment.”
Shared in group sessions—but ended up supporting everyone else.
Read the books, listened to the podcasts, followed the steps.
But nothing stuck. Why?
Because you weren’t getting help that really understood codependency.
You need therapy that focuses on you—your story, your pain, your healing.
“This is the first time I felt like someone actually got it. I wasn’t judged. I wasn’t blamed. I was seen.”
What If the Real Root Is Trauma?
Many women develop people-pleasing patterns from unresolved trauma. The 'fawn' response—appeasing to avoid conflict—isn't a personality trait. It’s a learned survival mechanism. Often, these patterns trace back to experiences like childhood emotional neglect.
That need to be needed? That fear of rejection? Those are trauma echoes.
Our trauma-informed approach helps you:
Gently uncover your patterns
Understand their origin
Begin releasing the guilt, fear, and shame you’ve carried for years
Because you deserve healing, not another performance.
Therapy Approaches We Use for Deep, Lasting Healing
EMDR Therapy
If past memories still trigger overwhelming emotions, EMDR therapy helps your brain reprocess them in a way that removes their power over you.
IFS Therapy
If part of you wants to heal, but another part resists, Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy helps you understand and work with these inner conflicts so you feel more balanced.
Individual Therapy
Because trauma isn’t just stored in the mind, but also in the body, specialized individual therapy will help you reconnect with a sense of safety and peace.
Picture This Version of You
You say no—and feel peace, not panic.
You set boundaries—and feel strong, not selfish.
You wake up rested instead of emotionally exhausted.
You have relationships rooted in respect—not obligation.
This isn’t just therapy. It’s a return to your true self.
Questions or concerns about relationship therapy?
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Although we do not provide couples therapy (when both individuals are involved in the therapy process), relationships often improve when people seek individual growth work.
How we relate to our own characteristics is how we relate to others who represent those characteristics. For example, if you feel that saying “no” to others is mean, you likely feel others are being mean to you when they tell you no, even if there is no malice behind it.
Throughout our work together, you will be more accepting of, and less reactive to, others who used to bother you; you can relate to them with compassion because you’re able to do that with characteristics of you that resemble them.
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Of course! Just as we could work on your anxiety if you weren’t experiencing symptoms in session, we will explore your history and identify patterns in your relationships.
We use evidence-based modalities that allow you to “connect the dots,” gain a deeper understanding of your internal and external experiences, and get to the “root” of your issues so you can heal from experiences that drive these patterns.
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We understand that therapy is an emotional and financial investment in your future. We care deeply about providing the best possible experience for each of our clients and take a limited number of clients. We take our mental health and professional development very seriously and value work/life balance to ensure we remain passionate about our work and fully committed to providing the best possible care. This allows our clients to achieve their goals more quickly than working with therapists who are overworked and burnt out.
When you invest in therapy, you invest in your quality of life and general well-being. Imagine how liberating it would feel to finally be at peace, be free, and live the life you deserve.
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If you constantly feel drained, guilty for prioritizing yourself, or overwhelmed by others’ needs, therapy for codependency and people-pleasing can help.
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Because we don’t treat you like a checklist. We specialize in this work and offer real tools, not just talk.
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Yes. Our sessions are personal, private, and focused. You get the same depth and connection as in-person care.
EMPWR blends EMDR and Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help women break free from past pain and step into their most empowered selves.
But beyond the techniques, she’s created a space where you can feel truly seen and heard—without judgment, without pressure. But more than techniques, she believes therapy is about creating a space where you can be fully seen and heard. Her compassionate, evidence-based approach empowers you to move forward with confidence.